Need help with daughter

[kaypmom]

I am new to posting on this site.  I found you through Facebook.  My daugher Casie is 12 (she will be 13 in June) she is very mature and smart for her age.  She is already going through the teenage rebel stage (she has been for the last year).  She wad dxd October 20, 2008, and at first she was real good about everything, then she started middle and my world felt like it fell apart for the second time!  It seems like I fight with her from the minute I come downstairs in the morning and until she goes to bed at night.  She won't test or take insulin while she is at school.  Then I set it up so she has to go to the office so someone will make sure she does, and she will do real good for a while.  So she talks me into letting her do it on her own, and she will do good for about a week then she will go back to her old habits.  I keep reading how as a parent I am still supposed to supervise all of her diabetes care.  How am I supposed to do this?  Just the night before last I stood there and watched her test (but I did not look at the meter) and she told me she was 210, we had dinner I saw her put her number and the carbs into her pump.  Two hours later I asked her to check because we had pizza for dinner and I can never figure out the right way to do this.  Again I stood there and she said she was 103, I thought wow we finally figured it out.  When she went to bed my husband told her to check and when I came downstairs he said she had but did not remember what the number was.  I went to her meter to see, and it read 551!  I thought how could she go from 103 to 551 without eating anything.  So I looked at the readings for earlier and when she said she was 210 she really was 310. and when she told me she was 103 she really was 203!!!!  I keep hearing I should not watch the numbers come up on the meter and on the pump, because it shows her that I dont believe her and it starts more arguments!  What am I supposed to do?  Then I was awake all night worrying about if she was ok.

Does anybody have any advice for me?  I am just tired of the fighting with her all the time.  I have a 16 year old that I don't fight with half as much as I do with her!

Thank you for listening
Kathy

[prh361]

Hi Kaypmom,

I actually DONT have kids with diabetes so it might be a lil strange that I have joined this group. But, I AM diabetic and have been for over 40 years and my daughter could still become Type I so I thought it would keep me in the loop and posted on new things going on.  I wanted to let you know that I was diagnoised at age 9 and had kind of the same issues your daughter is having. I was an athletic smart mature kid myself. One of the big differences between then and now is that I only gave ONE shot per day and DIDNT HAVE glucometers. Had to urinate in a cup and then dip a test stip into the urine . When I was in Jr High school I started to not give my shots when I would gain a few pounds. I was by no means fat, but a couple of extra pounds in that age where you start to "notice"  boys is very unthinkable.  My friends let me hear how hard it was on them to have to WAIT for me to do what I needed to do before we could go. I was ALWAYS running back in to use the restroom when the sugars were high, etc... I have so much more I could share with you, but this post wont let me! If you would like to email and chat I might be able to put a little lite on the subject for y'all....I HOPE! Email:prh361@yahoo if you would like.... If not, then good luck! =)
My mother made sure I was doing everything perfectly from age 9 to 14 or 15. I started to resent it all about the middle school age and just rebelled! I DONT think you can really STOP that from happening, but just do your best to keep track of what she is doing. Maybe you could all sit down and talk about what needs to be done...IF THAT IS AN O